Last week, our old daughter got the best of me as we were practicing her soccer drills. To make the routines interesting, I offer an incentive for her to work hard. For example, if she kicks more goals than me or scores more points in a drill, a reward is given. Typically that means allowing her to decide what we do in the future, e.g. choosing a restaurant, since she likes dining out.
However, our daughter doesn't like the idea of winning sometimes and losing other times. So she came up with a ingenious idea, giving me a reward of her choice if I win. My first reward? Getting to choose the restaurant when we eat out. As it turns out, this is also a reward for her, since we need to eat out for me to get my reward. So she wins, no matter what.
I thought her suggestion was pretty clever, and agreed to it for this time. However, to get more practice in soccer and other areas, I will likely need to change the reward system. I also realize that I definitely need to further improve my negotiating skills before she reaches adolescence :-)
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