My mom has been in a nursing home for almost three years. In my previous visits, I was always looking for my mom of my past. Throughout my childhood, my mother was always an energetic caregiver for her family, e.g. raising kids, maintaining the household and while keeping spotless home, which was her pride and joy. In the few years prior to my dad's death, my mom's capabilities were clearly declining. She no longer would clean the house, she stopped cooking and wasn't as agile with her grandchildren. She had loss the initiative and spirit she had in her younger days.
When she entered the nursing home, it only seemed to get worse, since she lost her ability to independently control her life. The visits to the nursing home have been challenging for me since I wanted my mom to match my memories . However, on this visit, I decided to follow some advice I heard on the radio, which was to enjoy my mom as she is today.
Here's what I did:
The last visit has been my best time with my mom so far since my father passed away in 2006. I visited with her 6 - 7 hours each day, talking with her when she was awake, and reading or watching CNBC on TV when she was asleep. I'm sure she enjoyed having me there, since she asked for a nurse much less frequently, and I enjoyed sharing time with her or when doing my other activities.
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1 comment:
This has been a heartwarming read. It must be tiring having to look after your mum now that she is different. My prayers are with you
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